Breaking Free from Busyness: Reclaiming the Art of Simply Being

In today’s fast-paced world, busyness isn’t just a habit—it’s a badge of honor. From demanding work schedules to societal expectations, we often equate our worth with our productivity. But what if true happiness lies not in doing more, but in simply being?

A recent article in TWSS Magazine reveals how deeply rooted these pressures are, noting that society glorifies the "hustle" and ties success to achievement. This mindset fosters a constant feeling of "not doing enough," leaving many of us—especially women—struggling with guilt when we take a moment to rest.

Our culture has turned busyness into a status symbol, as Harvard Business Review highlights. High effort, regardless of tangible outcomes, is often seen as morally admirable. This relentless push to "do" leaves little room for the nurturing, creative spaces our feminine energy thrives in.

Did you know balancing work and rest can actually sustain higher levels of productivity and creativity? Scientific studies have shown that a rested brain is more adept at forming new connections and generating innovative ideas. Taking time for rest isn’t just indulgent—it’s scientifically proven to fuel your best work.

I often hear from clients that they feel guilty for relaxing:

Sarah, shared a particularly moving story. She had recently retired and confided that she felt "useless" at home without a job to define her purpose. She wanted to enjoy her retirement, but found it challenging to embrace the ease of this new phase in her life. Sarah’s "aha" moment came during a private healing session, when she realized her value wasn’t tied to her productivity or contribution to others. While this might sound like a small acknowledgment, it completely transformed how she approached her days. She began to find joy in being present and exploring interests she’d long set aside.

For myself, "productivity guilt" is something that still creeps up from time to time. I know the feeling well—when my to-do list grows too long, it’s a sure sign that I need to let some tasks go and carve out time to rest. And let me tell you, I thoroughly enjoy my downtime!

Some of my favorite hobbies (yes, these are hobbies) are coloring books, jigsaw puzzles, gardening, and watching period dramas and sci-fi series. These activities allow me to recharge, connect with my creativity, and simply be. They’re not distractions—they’re part of living a vibrant, balanced life.

The Science and Power of Rest

When we allow ourselves to slow down, we open the door to our feminine energy—a creative, intuitive force that thrives in moments of rest and reflection. Practices like sound healing, mantra-based meditation, and even simple activities like journaling or enjoying nature can deepen this connection.

Feminine energy invites us to tune into our natural rhythms and step away from the relentless drive to "do." In these slower, intentional spaces, inspiration and creativity flourish. By coupling rest with reflection, you not only recharge but also make room for new ideas and a deeper sense of alignment.

3 Tips to Embrace Being Over Doing

1. Redefine Productivity

   Productivity isn’t about endless output; it’s about meaningful engagement. Ask yourself: Does this activity align with my values and well-being?

   
   

   Try this: Start your day by listing three things that truly matter to you and prioritize only those. Let the rest wait.

   
   
   
   

2. Honor Feminine Energy

   Feminine energy flourishes in slower, more intuitive spaces. Try incorporating practices like mantra-based meditation or sound healing to connect with your inner wisdom and allow inspiration to flow naturally.

   
   

   Try this: Dedicate one evening a week (or every other week) to a relaxing hobby like painting, journaling, or reading, and notice how it makes you feel.

   
   
   
   

3. Set Boundaries with "Busy"

   Give yourself permission to say no. Carve out intentional time for rest and self-care. Remember, every "no" to unnecessary busyness is a "yes" to your peace of mind.

   
   

   Try this: Use affirmations like, "Resting is a productive choice," to reinforce your mindset and stay committed to your downtime.

When you take the time to slow down, you create space for clarity, peace, and alignment. Letting go of busyness isn’t just about doing less—it’s about making room for what truly matters. This is a practice I’m continually working on, and I hope these tips help you find more ease and joy in simply being.